As per usual, I’m ending the year with I’ve done this survey forever and ever, and I really enjoy it. I’m using the same version I used last year, though I think it’s slightly different from the one Linda posted. Past years are here: 2010, 2009, 2008, 2007, 2006.
1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?
This was a big year in the “things I’ve never done before” category — probably the biggest since I co-created and birthed a whole human being. I went to Hawaii! I graduated from law school. I spoke at my law school graduation. I got a job. I got an article published with a class. I studied for and took the bar exam. I took my daughter on a family vacation. I started a different job than the one I thought I would be started. Got an article accepted for publication all by myself. Passed the bar exam. Became a lawyer. Bought a car.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Last year I put sort of general things involving food and health, and I think I succeeded at those goals. I’ve lost more than 25 pounds since law school ended, and I’ve figured out that the strategy that works for me is to focus on doing positive things that are good for me rather than restricting bad things, and have the bad things be displaced by lack of time or simple lack of desire.
I’m going to write a separate post about resolutions for 2011, but suffice it to say that yes, I have some goals in mind. Doing Health Month has really helped focus the way I think about personal goal setting.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
A law school friend, and a cousin, and two other close friends. I also have a couple pregnant friends, so there have been babies but I haven’t seen them as much. Probably because of the information in Question 1.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
My parents had to put down their dog a few days ago, which was really sad. I can’t think of anyone else particularly close to me, but I really hope I’m not forgetting anyone.
5. What countries did you visit?
None. I went with B to Hawaii in January and it was SPECTACULAR. We also took K on her first real vacation (well, longer than the weekend in DC) to Denver, and although people looked at us funny for choosing it as a vacation destination, I really enjoyed it. There was a plane ride involved, we rode a train up a mountain, we went to a great zoo and botanical garden and aquarium and children’s museum and had great food and it was really kid friendly. Hoping to do the same in Chicago or San Diego or maybe even Maine this summer before switching jobs in August.
6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011?
A more routine yoga practice. A cleaner house. Less stuff. Less debt.
7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
Let’s see. January 6, when we left for Honolulu. May 13, when K turned three. May 14, when I graduated from law school. June 26, my 7th wedding anniversary. July 26, when I took the bar exam. August 3, when we left for Denver. August 9, when I started work. October 5, when I was told I passed the bar exam. October 27, when I was sworn in as an attorney. Holidays and birthdays are holidays and birthdays, but other than K’s they were great but not different.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Graduating law school, getting a clerkship, speaking at graduation, passing the bar.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Reading my paragraph from last year on this, I really feel like 2011 wasn’t as bad as I forecasted it could have been. But it was hard. I was stressed, and I can be mean and demanding when I’m stressed. 3 is hard, and filled with delight but terror and difficult choices. Figuring out how to navigate two jobs, one toddler, preschool, debate season, carpooling, and actually seeing the person I’m married to is hard. I feel like it might finally be starting to get more manageable, but there were many, many times in the last year where I simply failed to keep everything afloat, especially with grace.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Not really. 3-year-old in preschool who never went to daycare means that we’ve all had every cold ever this year, but I’m the least sick of the three of us. Which is weird, because I’m the one who was the most sick as a child. Of course, now I’ve probably jinxed it.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
I got a bike for my birthday, which was technically bought for me but clearly comes from the same account, which has been awesome. I also bought a CAR right before Christmas, and even in the one week where I haven’t had to drag K out of bed so B could take me to work has been glorious.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Isn’t this always just a time to talk about how awesome the person I married is, and how much patience I imagine he has to have on a daily basis? My life has also been greatly enriched by having Sam, our nanny, and all the people who teach Kiernan: the preschool teachers, the dance teacher, the swim teachers. Kiernan continues to be her delightful self.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled or depressed?
You know, same old, mostly politicians. I may not make it to the 2012 presidential election.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Student loans, childcare, food.
15. What did you get really excited about?
Graduation, probably, and our trips to Hawaii and Denver. Starting work, dorkily enough.
16. What song will always remind you of 2011?
Mostly the Adele album, since that’s what K requests in the car at all times and is the most fail proof way to get her to fall asleep on the way home from anywhere late or during nap time. A couple Lady Gaga songs.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
– happier or sadder? I think the same but optimistic about happier soon?
– thinner or fatter? Thinner, though not at all where I need to be. Getting there.
– richer or poorer? Well, I actually OWE money on my loans now, so I’ll say poorer.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Still Yoga. Reading. Being outside. Hanging out with B.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Yelling about stuff I fundamentally don’t care about. Studying for the bar (easy to say in retrospect!).
20. How did you spend Christmas?
B’s mom and her partner went out of town for Christmas, so technically we’re not done with the Christmas celebrating yet, but we spent Christmas eve first in Rosemount with B’s dad and then at my parents house. We hung out at home on Christmas morning where a certain small friend put on ten separate outfits from her new dress up box before nap time and generally had a glorious time, and then went to my parents again for Christmas dinner. I wish we had spent more time just hanging and less time shuttling people back and forth and worrying, but it was spectacular. I will probably talk about the K part of it more later.
21. What was your favorite TV program?
Still the West Wing, always the West Wing. We also started watching Once Upon a Time, which I’ve really enjoyed, and I always enjoy Survivor and Big Brother.
22. What were your favorite books of the year?
I’ve gotten really into Goodreads in the past few months and have really enjoyed finally tracking books and reading fiction and figuring out what else I want to read. Looking over my book lists for the year, I think the books I’ve enjoyed most are: Scorpions, A Map of the World, and Bossypants. My favorite romance novel author for the year was probably Sabrina Jeffries.
23. What was your favorite music from this year?
Adele, Tracy Chapman, still Eric Hutchinson, still Maroon 5. The singles I put on my phone and then listen to over and over.
24. What were your favorite films of the year?
I think I saw one movie in the theaters–Crazy, Stupid Love– and it was good but pretty depressing. I think I remember liking Easy A on Netflix.
Ooh! I saw Bridesmaids in the theaters! And I loved it!
25. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Went to work, had a coincidental lunch out at work which was lovely, went out to dinner with B at Il Gatto (which was good but has now closed, oddly) and then saw aforementioned good but depressing movie. I was 31, and 31 seems to be the exact most lame birthday ever because it ushers in the fact that all birthdays from here on out are pretty lame until 40.
26. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Less stress right up until I started my job, more house space, less stuff.
27. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?
Suits on court days, work clothes the rest of the weekday, forgetting to wear a coat in the winter, jeans and yoga pants the rest of the time.
28. What kept you sane?
The joyous affection and unabashed adoration of the child who lives with me. ”I love you, Mama, more than anything in the whole wide world.” never gets old.
29. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.
Sometimes learning not to say anything is the best thing you can do. It never hurts to be kind.
30. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
“And if this is what we’ve got, then what we’ve got is gold
We’re shining bright and I want you, I want you to know
The morning’s on it’s way, our friends all say goodbye
There’s nowhere else to go, I hope that you’ll stay the night”
- James Blunt